A few weeks back my husband and I were out to dinner with our new baby. I was right in the middle of trying to figure out how to get this sweet little guy to nurse, but was supplementing him with a bottle so he wasn't starving. (You can read more about that in my Baby Blues and Depression post)
I was an emotional wreck, and I hated giving my baby a bottle. Our sweet waitress, I'm not being sarcastic she really was sweet, came by and told me that if I could breastfeed it would be so much better for my baby. She was a mother of two and was currently still breastfeeding her one year old.
My eyes started to fill up with tears. I had very angry feelings towards her and wanted to say something mean or punch her in the face; thank goodness my husband was there, he very kindly told her that this was our seventh baby and that he can't nurse. She immediately apologized, but suggested that maybe I should pump so my baby can have breast milk. I cried most of the way home.
I think the saddest and most frustrating word in the English language is, should. You SHOULD breastfeed, you SHOULD eat only organic food, you SHOULD quickly lose your baby weight... The list goes on and on, and in the end it just leaves you irritated.
Do you want to know the only shoulds you should have with your baby? You SHOULD feed them! End of story.
Whether or not you bottle feed, breastfeed, pump, or do all of the above, it doesn't matter. All that matters is that your sweet baby is being fed. I've talked to other moms who couldn't nurse and most of them it has broken their hearts that they were unable to.
So, before we judge someone or give them our unsolicited opinion on how they choose to feed their baby, just stop, or someone might punch you in the face. :)
For those of you who have low milk supply and are wishing to increase it, I've seen success with a few things: Dr. Christopher's Lactation supplement, sweet fennel essential oil, and lactation cookies. I had great success with the first two.