A lot homeschool moms put in a lot of time and effort into their relationship with their kids. To be honest, I think it’s awesome. I hang out with some really cool ladies who have great relationship with all their kids, even their teens.
These awesome moms read great books that inspire them to connect with their kids, they have support groups where they can go when a problem does arise, so they know the best way to handle the situation. Seriously, these ladies amaze me!
I think there is nothing wrong with trying to be a good mom and connect with your kids; the only problem is when you worry so much about your kids that you push your husband off to the side.
Here’s the problem. At the end of the day your kids are going to move out and you better like the guy that you’re now home alone with. So, in my opinion your relationship with your spouse is the most important relationship.
This amazing lady I know was an awesome mom. She loved her kids, she gave them a great childhood, and when her youngest left home, her husband left her. She had put so much effort into being a great mom, that she forgot about being a great wife. She had devoted all her energy into the kids that she and her husband had completely grown apart. There was no adultery, no yelling, but there was also no connection.
Staying connected with your husband doesn’t have to be difficult. I’ve put together five things you can do to help keep your relationship on track, or help yours if you’re struggling.
In February I did a 14 day Love Challenge, and it was amazing how much more I adored my husband after that challenge. He didn’t change, but the way I saw him did. It was just doing some type of service for him every day, without expecting anything in return and it was awesome.
Read Wife For Life by Ramona Zabriskie. Life changing book, I loved it!
I also had an opportunity to share some tips on how to Rock Your Marriage. You can watch the video here.
Continue to date your spouse. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean that you stop dating. Dating looks different when you have kids, but do your best to put in some effort to date him.
Learn his “love language” and do something sweet for him in his language.
If your marriage is really struggling, don’t be afraid to seek some professional help. I’m a big fan of therapy and coaching.
Before we got pregnant with our bonus baby, we had started to take little weekend get aways. One of the things I struggled with when I became pregnant was that these were going to end. It’s easy to stay connected when you’re getting good, quality time together. Now that baby is getting older, we tried sneaking away for the night, and it was awesome.
We didn’t go far, but we had so much fun just being together. Remember, at the end of the day your babies are going to grow up and leave the house, so if you want to enjoy the man you’ve married make sure that you continue to work on your most important relationship.
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