Why Do I Bother?

Have you heard the saying, “The days are long, but the years are short?” Well, today feels like an eternity. When my alarm went off at 5:40am a little piece of me died on in the inside. I sluggishly got out of bed, put on my workout clothes, and half heartedly completed my workout.

As soon as I got home we read scriptures as a family and I started breakfast. After breakfast was all cleaned up, I washed the stank off of myself, I threw on some awful sweats, a dirty old sweatshirt, and I started school. I laid in the recliner, half asleep reading Kidnapped in my terrible Scottish accent and then with the energy of a sloth, I started our study of an explorer.

Master George ended up losing his mind and was screaming so bad that no one could hear me, so I threw in the towel. I put him down to bed, told the kids to keep doing their independent study, and I was out to go and take a nap.

After my glorious nap I woke up to wild shenanigans. No one had worked on their school, the kitchen was a disaster, and now the house was a mess too.

Why do I bother?

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Why Do I Bother?

Two tips for helping you when you have one of “those days”

My son, who is in a band, and I were talking the other day about bassists. His opinion is that if there isn’t a bass in a song everyone notices, but nobody really cares about the bass itself. I laughed and said, “Oh, so it’s the mom of the band?” Nobody cares about her, but everyone notices if she isn’t doing what they want her to be doing. I thought that was hilarious.

I have two pieces of advice for myself, or anyone who has ever had one of “those days”.

First, it’s ok to have an off day. Life isn’t all rainbows and butterflies, some days are long, hard, or just plain suck, BUT if we didn’t have those days we wouldn’t appreciate the amazing ones. When you are having an off day, go ahead and just feel it. Don’t avoid the feeling because when we do that, we usually go to our buffers, which may bring temporary happiness, but usually leave us feeling worse. So really just feel whatever you are feeling. You feel annoyed, anxious, frustrated? Where do you feel it? I usually feel it in my stomach; it feels like a big heavy rock just sitting right in my gut. Just sit with it, and feel it. Having a negative feeling doesn’t make you a negative person.

Second, when you can see that your day just isn’t going to go as planned, decide right then and there what does a successful day look like for you? What if success for you was just that you took a shower? Or, what if it is that you were kind even when you wanted to get mad? Then who cares if dinner was sandwiches, or my favorite dinner, feed your own face? Step back, throw away what you think you “should” (my least favorite word) get done that day, and decide to just do a few things. The dirty clothes will be there tomorrow, but sometimes if you don’t step back when your day is off, your sanity won’t be.

If we’re being honest, I decided a long time ago that I am an amazing mom. I even have a post it note on my mirror to remind me everyday, so when the crap hits the fan I know I can just do what an amazing mom would do, because that is what I am.