Last Sunday my son spoke in church. He’s 15 and doesn’t need any help, so it was extra exciting to hear what he had to say because it would be coming from him. Well, he gets up, makes a joke about the other kids being short and then proceeds to quote Mike Tyson. My little mama heart got worried; what in the world was he about to say? Here is the quote he shared: “Everyone has a plan ’til they get punched in the mouth”.
He then proceeded to tell a story about scout camp and how one of the boys stepped on a stick and it embedded into his foot. The boys had a plan and then someone “got punched in the mouth” or got a stick stuck in their foot. It was a great talk and it has left me pondering that quote.
How often do we have a perfect little plan and then, BAM, life punches in you in the mouth?
I have had many great plans of how homeschool “should” look in my own home. I have strong feelings against the word should, but that’s for another day. Anyway, I have planned several times for my monkeys to sit quietly and listen so sweetly as I read aloud to them or that they would eagerly get their school work done so we could go and play, but more often than not my days don’t look like that. I have days where kids get sick, where babies cry, tantrums are thrown, and kids are angry.
What are you going to do when that happens? Are you going to get mad at the kids and yell and scream? Or are you going to roll with the punches and figure it out?
I like to think of what do I want my end result to be? It may be my end result that day or my end result of my children leaving the home. If I don’t know where I want to be, then it doesn’t really matter what I do.
For example, if I’m not really quite sure who I am as a mom or what kind of relationship I want with my children; then it doesn’t really matter how I respond when life throws me some punches. But, if I want to be the best version of me and I want to build lasting relationships with my children then I know that when the crap hits the fan I don’t want to yell and scream; I want to do my best to be patient and figure out each little obstacle that tries to get in my way.
I want to challenge you to write down what kind of mom do you want to be? If you know what you want and where you are going then you’ll know what path you want to take when life doesn’t go as planned.
There are a few things in life that you can count on, taxes, death, and things not going as planned. You may not have control over the things that go wrong in your life, but you can sure as heck have control of how you respond. Yes, you will make mistakes, you’re human, I hope, but learn from your mistakes, apologize to those you’ve hurt or offended and do better next time.