Watch Me Weekly-Mother's Day

I have often thought that I'm the funniest person that I know. It's great because I amuse myself often. When I was thinking about what to do for Watch Me Weekly I knew I wanted to do a Mother's Day post, but then I started to get silly and thought I would give you tips on how to have a terrible Mother's Day.

I know for myself and other mothers I've spoken to that they don't like Mother's Day. They put up so many expectations that of course the day is doomed to fail. I completely understand, it's not like you just picked your kid up at the store and brought them home. No, you had to grow them right inside your belly and eventually push them out. Even though it is a completely beautiful experience it's no easy task. 

And for mamas who have adopted. I cannot imagine the heartache you experienced while you had to wait to get your sweet baby in your arms, not knowing when or if it would happen.

So yes, moms I love that there is a day to celebrate you. You worked hard for the title of mom, so why not hope for this beautiful day where everyone honors you? The problem is that our expectations become so high or unrealistic that no one could possibly ever fulfill them. Or, we're not clear about what we would even want for the day.

In the video I give tips on how to have a terrible Mother's Day, but if you want to have a great day here are some real tips:

1. Let go of your expectations. Enjoy whatever happens that day, even if you are washing the dishes and your husband goes and takes a nap. You can still be happy.

2. Be clear about what you want. If you want a certain gift, tell your husband or your children. No one can read minds, so be clear, but to remember that no matter what they get for you to be grateful.  I did this for Christmas, I was very clear what my kids could get for me, but instead they went in on some very beautiful jewelry with my husband. It wasn't what I asked for, but it was way better.

If you're still determined to have a terrible day watch the video for some awful tips. 

Watch Me Weekly-Turbulence

Last week we were able to take our three oldest kids on a trip to upstate New York. We had an amazing time and feel very blessed that we were able to go. However, on the very last leg of the journey we hit some terrible turbulence. I don’t fly very often, but it was the worse turbulence I’ve ever been through.

Even though I was about to lose my cookies there were little kids on the plane laughing and giggling through the whole thing. Isn’t it funny that whatever our thoughts are, it creates our reality. In the video I talk about some lessons I learned while going through that experience.

Watch Me Weekly-Saying Yes

Often when we say no to something we’re disappointed or frustrated because we can’t do that thing. But what if instead of feeling frustrated we turn it around to, what do we get to say yes to? In this video I give some examples of how to turn our negative no, into a positive yes.

Watch Me Weekly-Finding Happiness

How does one really find happiness? Is it just something that some of us are lucky enough to have and the rest of us are just out of luck? I believe happiness is a skill, which is great news because that means with practice that anyone can have it! In the video I talk about ways for you to find your happiness.

Watch Me Weekly-Death

I know this isn't the most exciting topic for everyone, but today I'm talking about death. In it I share a quote from Marcus Aurelius, "It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live." At the end of the day how do you want to be remembered?

Watch Me Weekly-Ask Not

We're having a little bit of a homeschool lesson today. Not really, but I am quoting from some of the most famous speeches throughout history. I take the quote from JFK, "Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what can you do for your country." However, I may have switched it up a bit. Spoiler, I totally did. 

Enjoy the video!

Watch Me Weekly-Power of Thoughts

Our thoughts are so amazingly powerful. Whatever we think will create how we feel. It really is that simple. I always thought this sounded crazy and that people who thought this were crazy, but it turns out that I was just crazy.

In the video I share some tips on how to calm down the crazy thoughts so you can feel good and enjoy life!

Watch Me Weekly-Progress Not Perfection

Being perfect doesn't exist. Do you really understand that? There is no such thing as perfection. I heard someone say that they aim for B+ work. I like that. I can be a B+ wife, a B+ mom, and a B+ person. Where I'm really doing my best, but not getting hung up on when I make mistakes, because I will mistakes. So will you. I like to keep striving for progression and just try to be a little better today than I was yesterday.

10 Ways To Have A Rocking Marriage

Last week I was asked to be a part of an amazing group of women and speak on International Women's Day. My topic was, 10 Ways To Have A Rocking Marriage. It was such a great experience! 

I know these tips have been super helpful in my marriage and I hope that they can be helpful in yours too!

Watch Me Weekly-Being Positive

This week on Watch Me Weekly I talk about being positive. I'm sure that I'm not the only one who has ever questioned why everyone shouts from the rooftops that you should be positive? It turns out that there are some pretty amazing reasons to why being positive is not only good for your mind but good for your health.

In the video I give three tips to help you when you are feeling negative and how to turn it around. Enjoy!

Watch Me Weekly-Making Requests With No Expectations

You guys, I am so excited that I get to be a part of an amazing group of women and do a live Facebook event for International Women's Day! It will be broadcasting from 9:00am-9:00pm on Thursday, March 8th; I will be speaking from 2:00-2:30pm. You can find all the info about the event here. I'll be talking about how to rock your marriage and giving 10 awesome tips so you can make your marriage amazing!

Today I'm sharing one of the tips with you, making requests with no expectations. Enjoy!

Watch Me Weekly-Is Anger A Useful Emotion?

I have decided to make a weekly video. I was going to always post them on Wednesday and call it, Watch Me Wednesday, but I didn't want to put too much pressure on myself, so it will always be a fun surprise that a new video will be released every week, hence the name Watch Me Weekly.

In this video I talk about anger. Is anger a useful emotion? When dealing with our kids it's not. I give some tips of what to do instead of getting angry.

Enjoy!

Making Progress

I have been going to Cross Fit for the last 6 1/2 years. During that time I have averaged going 3-5 times per week. When people find out that I've been going for a long time they want to see my impressive muscles or assume that I must be really strong.

Spoiler, I don't have impressive muscles and I'm not that strong.

I am not one of the amazing super stars and a lot of times I finish dead last in a work out, but I keep going because even though my progress is slower than others I'm still always improving. I can now do a kipping pull-up, I know how to do a lot of the olympic lifts, I even did a work out the other day using a 53 lb. kettlebell. Wahoo, way to go me!

Anyways, when you start making changes in your emotional and mental health a lot of times it seems that your improvement is so slow. Why can some people hear of the concept of managing their thoughts and just get it, while it takes someone else much longer to figure it out?

You may see someone who has just learned of this concept and they have already found peace in their life. While you're sitting at home trying to not go postal because some how your kids found the hidden Play-Doh and have impressively smashed it into the carpet. 

But it's ok. As long as you're progressing and moving forward, who cares if it's on a slower time line than someone else? It's not a race to see who can find the most peace in their life first, but a lifelong journey of finding peace and then helping others do the same.

I'm lucky enough to work out with two of my sisters. This picture was from a magical moment when all three of us ended up coming at the same time. We mostly giggle together instead of working out. :)

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Wrap Up 14 Days of Love Challenge

I thought it would be a great idea to let you know how my 14 Days of Love Challenge went. No joke, it was AMAZING!! My husband loved it and it completely shifted my thinking for the past 14 days. Instead of thoughts like, "What is he going to do for me?" I was having thoughts like, "What can I do for him?"

On Valentine's night we ended up going to an NBA game. I know that's probably not the most romantic idea for most people, but it was great because we were doing something that he loves. I had the same excitement for Valentine's as you do on Christmas Eve, well maybe not the same, but the idea that I'm so excited to give someone something that I know they really love. 

So here is my confession. I was very clear that you had to have no expectations throughout the 14 days. That you were just going to show up, love your husband, and not worry about yourself. I did really great with this except on one of the nights. It was the night that you take your husband out and do something he wants to do. I wanted to take him to his favorite restaurant and then go to a shooting range. Well, our older kids all had plans that night, so nobody could watch the baby for very long. We were able to go to dinner, but it wasn't the place that I wanted to take him to (even though it was still really good) and then we had to hurry back home. There was an NBA game on, so instead of watching a movie together he wanted to watch the game.  

I was kind of bugged. I ended up going into our room and just read. My amazing night that I had planned was completely ruined, or so I thought. Luckily, I did my own thought work before I got upset with him and realized that he had a fantastic night. 

Someone had given us a gift card to the other restaurant, so it was way cheaper, and he got to watch basketball with our little boys, who LOVE basketball as much as he does. He had a great night, which was the whole goal of the challenge. It was only my negative thoughts about the night that said it was lame.

I jokingly told my husband that now that the challenge is over I can be mean to him. :) But seriously, it shifted my paradigm on our relationship. By focusing on him I felt more at peace than when I worry about me. Although I won't have specific things that I'll be doing for him each day this challenge has made me want to focus more on him, something that I plan to keep on doing.

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