Mindset

My husband and I each just read the book Mindset by Carol S. Dweck and it has rocked our world. It has been one of those books that makes you really look at who you are and what you can become.

The book basically splits people into two different types of thinking, either the fixed mindset or the growth mindset. The fixed mindset says that I am this way and there is no changing it. Other people are talented or successful because they were just born that way. The growth mindset looks at someone successful and thinks how could they do that too? They know they have weaknesses and shortcomings but work hard to overcome them.

One example she gave in the book was about a girl who was a very talented musician. She was giving concerts at a young age and eventually went to Julliard. When she attended the school she didn't think she could learn anything else because she was already so amazing. Eventually, students who weren't as talented ended up surpassing her because they were teachable and practiced. She was about to get kicked out the school before a teacher was able to help her change her mindset. 

Another great thing about the book is it gives you help on how to have a growth mindset and more importantly, how to help your kids have a growth mindset too. One of the recommendations is: at dinner ask your kids what mistakes did they have that day or failures, and how did they overcome them? We have been trying to do this with our kids. The first time we did it only a few kids could even think of anything, but as we keep doing it my kids who think that they never make mistakes were able to start recognizing them, realize they're not that big of a deal, and then try to think of possible solutions in a safe environment. 

She gives a lot examples of famous people that have the different mindsets. It really helped me to better understand the difference between a growth and fixed mindset. I didn't always agree with the author that some of her examples had a growth mindset, but overall I thought she did a great job.

I haven't had my kids read the book, yet, but I talk about the book so much to my kids it's like they've already read it. :) I actually plan on having my older boys read the book sometime this school year. Any mature reader could easily read and understand the book.

Hands down, this is one of the best books I've read this year. I highly recommend it!

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